Tag Archives: Dialogue


Messages and Metamessages

Sometimes you mean what you say.
Sometimes you don’t.

Jon and Juliet discuss messages and metamessages and some of the ideas from Deborah Tannen’s That’s Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships. (Amazon link)

They recite a few lines from Jules Feiffer’s play Grown Ups.

Jake: Look, I don’t care if it’s important or not, when a kid calls its mother the mother should answer.
Louise: Now I’m a bad mother.
Jake: I didn’t say that.
Louise: It’s in your stare.
Jake: Is that another thing you know? My stare?

Dialogue Follow-Up

Listener Christian recently commented on our Dialogue Show. In an interview, Harlan Ellison said that he watched Judge Judy to get hear how real people speak. We talk about this, reality tv, how that impacts writing, and our own speaking and listening styles… in our giant Dialogue Follow-Up show.

Jon mentioned and recommends John Green’s Paper Towns in this show.

When Margo Roth Spiegelman beckons Quentin Jacobsen in the middle of the night—dressed like a ninja and plotting an ingenious campaign of revenge—he follows her. Margo’s always planned extravagantly, and, until now, she’s always planned solo. After a lifetime of loving Margo from afar, things are finally looking up for Q . . . until day breaks and she has vanished. Always an enigma, Margo has now become a mystery. But there are clues. And they’re for Q. (Amazon Link)

He also mentioned and recommends the unedited version of the podcast On Being with Krista Tippett.